If the last few months have taught me anything, it’s the importance of family in my life. I have found myself being worried about aunts and uncles and cousins, and making an effort to keep in touch with them as much as I can. It hasn’t been easy with my family spread all over the world, in all kinds of crazy time zones, but social media has made it possible for me and I will forever be grateful to modern technology for this.
I have a large family. My father had five siblings, while my mother has six, and it might seem strange in this day and age, but somehow the love among the siblings also transferred into their offspring. As a result, having cousins living far away in other countries couldn’t stop us from loving each other, even when there was no internet or cell phones. To others it still seems like a strange dynamic, but this has always been our normal.
During this lock down, I have had the opportunity to re-connect with the elders who I have looked up to all my life. I have worried about them, scolded them, cried with them and listened to them while they scolded me. It has been the closest that I have ever felt to them, all while sitting in our homes in different countries and sometimes even continents.
As for my cousins, it is sometimes difficult to make people understand that my cousins are my oldest friends. I was friends with them before I knew what friendship was. We have navigated our lives together, giving each other support and encouragement because even though we are bonded by blood, our ties are so much more than just that. And that goes for all of them, no matter how much older or younger they are, they’re still my go-to for problem solving, brain storming and even hand holding.
I once read a book called We Were Liars, and I thought I could relate to the relationships in that book, because I do have cousins who I have spent days talking to or getting in trouble with. And, honestly, there are some of us who are entirely capable of killing each other too!As our world comes closer to opening up, I just wanted to write down how these last few months have made me thankful for all the people who I have always taken for granted. My constants. My family.